Explanation follows.
An owner family has very few chances of finding the right family counselor if mistrust characterizes the family dynamics.
Even before the counselor gets involved, there is already a lack of trust between family members.
And if some members of the family start to feel distrustful of the family counselor, the family has just gained one more problem—instead of a solution to the ones it already had.
Distrust of the advisor can be caused by several things:
👉 The chemistry between the counselor and (some of) the family members is poor.
👉 The advisor is incompetent in relation to the issues.
👉 Not everyone in the family is ready for a constructive change process.
👉 Some family members consider the advisor to be biased.
The person who takes the initiative to bring in an external advisor can minimize the risk of a mismatch by ensuring that the family works together to screen potential candidates for the job.
The screening can reveal the advisor's competencies, the chemistry with the family, and any reluctance to engage in the process on the part of some members of the owner family. In this way, the family can avoid entering into a collaboration that breaks down along the way.
This is important!
If a collaboration breaks down along the way, it can confirm and fuel the atmosphere of mistrust that already exists within the owner family.
And then it can be even more difficult to get the whole family on board to start working with another advisor.
Fortunately, there is a counselor for every family that is ready for healing and growth.
Read on to find out if I could be the right choice for your family.
